Fulfill
Your Obligations as a Marriage Partner
Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai, Hsihu, Formosa, January 21, 1996
(Originally in Chinese) Videotape No. 523
Even
though I teach you things about cosmetic skills and virtues to remind
you that you should do your best to maintain yourself and express
your esthetic aspects, this cannot guarantee that your marriage will
definitely be happy and satisfactory. It is because karma may sometimes
create situations that are different from our expectations. Therefore,
if we have already done our best, yet our marriage is still unsuccessful,
we should thank God for liberating us. There is nothing to complain
about.
If
we have not fulfilled our obligations in a marriage, in a case when
it has failed, we will feel uneasy at heart. We will think that perhaps
it is our fault, perhaps we have not done well enough, our cooking
was lousy, or we didn't beautify ourselves to please the eyes of our
husband. That is why we ought to do everything as well as possible.
However, that doesn't mean that after we have done everything well,
our husband definitely will not leave us. No one can guarantee this
kind of thing.
In
the same sense, if a husband is all-perfect and also very gentle,
it doesn't mean that his wife definitely will not leave him. The causation
and karmic hindrance in this world are really hard to determine. Therefore,
doing our best to fulfill our responsibilities and obligations lets
us have peace of mind. In case something really happens, our conscience
will not feel uneasy. We can face our conscience candidly, because
we know that we have fulfilled our duties, and have done everything
that we should do well.
Therefore,
it doesn't mean that after I have taught you cosmetic skills and virtues,
your marriage is guaranteed to be a satisfying one. No one can guarantee
this kind of thing. Most of the things in this world are ephemeral.
Therefore, in doing anything, we just do our best to fulfill our obligations,
just like when protecting our marriage. Then, whatever happens, we
know that it is arranged by God, by destiny. We no longer need to
expect anything, blame anyone, feel uneasy or sad, or be attached
to anything. Besides, when we have done everything well, even if our
marriage has failed, we will still have become a contented person.
This is the most important thing.
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