Spoken
by Supreme Master Ching Hai, Five-day International Retreat,
Long Beach, CA, U.S.A., December 28, 1996
(Originally in English) Videotape No. 573
Marriage
doesn't mean bondage and slavery. Marriage is just a partnership.
Each one must encourage the other. Some people misunderstand, and
that's why a marriage doesn't work. But you have to be the understanding
one and try to reason. Only after numerous trials and trepidations
and nothing works out might you consider, for your own spiritual development
and safety, which course is appropriate for you and for him.
Spoken by Supreme Master
Ching Hai, Five-day International Retreat,
Long Beach, CA, U.S.A., December 28, 1996
(Originally in English) Videotape No. 573
So
be the one that you desire to have, instead of having the one that
you desire. Just be the one. If you want your husband to be romantic,
why don't you be that way? Then he will learn, he will cooperate.
Or if you want your wife to be nice and romantic, then tell her what
you need from her, tell her what you like, or hint in a very special
way. Work at your partnership and bring out the best in each other.
That is the best.
Spoken by Supreme Master Ching
Hai Five-day International Retreat,
Long Beach, CA, U.S.A., December 28, 1996
(Originally in English) Videotape No. 573
Love,
like trees and flowers, also needs watering every day, at least in
the dry season. Otherwise it dies. People think, oh! I love you, and
then it will be forever. No, no. You have to nourish it through devotion,
through daily renewal, through appreciation of each other's value
and loving kindness, and help your partner to develop the best qualities
within him or herself. That's true marriage. That's true partnership.